No Notifications, No Problems
I’m sure you all know that comparing yourself to other people is one of the dumbest things you can do, especially when you’re low on self-confidence. But — even though it constantly reminds you not to do it — the internet makes comparing yourself to other people really easy. So easy in fact that you probably do it without even noticing. A quick scroll through social media can become a long and crushing activity — reminding you that literally everyone is doing, saying, and living better than you ever will. It's important to remember that everyone is editing their lives for public consumption, just like you. But I'm sure you all know that too, right?
A while ago I realised just how much time I spent aimlessly scrolling through social media. I realised how much of that time I spent looking was when I was bored or procrastinating, rather than when I actually wanted to look. I also realised just how shitty bored-scrolling through social media made me feel. So I decided to make a change and start looking at social media only when I wanted to. I know that sounds stupid, but if you note down how often you look at your Twitter or Instagram feed because you had a notification, rather than because you decide to, you might be surprised. I definitely was.
So I deleted the twitter app from all my devices, and turned off all internet notifications on my phone. I basically set things up so I had to be more intentional about looking at everyone else’s awesome life. That tiny change has made a massive difference to me. I can’t remember who said “the dumber I make my devices the smarter I become”, but I totally get it. While I don’t feel that much smarter, I do feel a little happier. I’ve just about got over that feeling that I’m “missing out” on everything too.
I’m not saying that I think everyone should delete certain apps and turn off notifications. Maybe I’m the only person who has this problem. But if you’re constantly comparing yourself to other people, and getting down because they're all “better” than you, it’s worth a try. And if you’re afraid you’ll miss out on everything, just try it for 24 hours — then log back in and count all the things that you genuinely feel like you “missed out” on. I’m fairly certain there won’t be that much, if anything.